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The Regulated Life

The Regulated Life

Hosted by: Erica Carter-Folk

Your body has been running a relationship pattern since before you could name it. This is where you finally learn what it is — and what to do about it. Welcome to The Regulated Life, hosted by Dr. Erica Carter-Folk —...

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Episode 52: RAW Regulation | Being "Checked Out" Is Just as Loud as Yelling

The explosive parent gets all the airtime. But the checked-out parent — the one who is physically present and emotionally somewhere else entirely — is sending just as powerful a signal. Today's episode is about the...
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Episode 51: RAW Regulation | Your Kids Don't Hear Your Words — They Download Your State

You can say all the right things with your mouth while your body is broadcasting something entirely different. Today's RAW Regulation episode breaks down the neuroscience of why your nervous system state matters more...
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Episode 50: Deep Dive | Generational Regulation: How to Break the Red Zone Cycle Before It Becomes Their Blueprint

  If you've ever had the sinking recognition of watching someone you love repeat a pattern that came directly from you — this episode is for you. This week, Erica goes deep into the neuroscience of co-regulation, the...
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Episode 49: RAW Regulation | The Spiral Reset Audio: Your Re-Coding Tool

  You made it to Friday. And today we close the week with the tool that holds all of it — the one built not just to reset your nervous system, but to recode it. Every time you use the Spiral Reset Audio, you are...
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Episode 48: RAW Regulation | Temperature Shock: Breaking the Trauma Loop Instantly

Sometimes the loop is already running too fast for questions or breathwork to reach it in time. For those moments — the acute, high-activation moments when your prefrontal cortex has gone partially offline — you need...
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Episode 47: RAW Regulation | The Wait 90 Seconds Protocol: Letting the Chemical Wave Pass

The urge to respond — right now, immediately, before the feeling passes — is one of the trauma loop's most reliable tricks. Today we talk about why that urgency isn't the truth, and we build the one skill that gives...
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Episode 46: RAW Regulation | The Check-In Tool: Are You Seeking a Fight to Feel Something?

Today's tool is one of the most honest ones in this series — and it requires a little courage to use it well. The Check-In is a three-question audit you can do in under two minutes, any time you feel the urge to stir...
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Episode 45: Regulated Life Deep Dive | Breaking the Addiction to Adrenaline

  Episode Summary If you've ever looked at your relationship history and wondered why you keep choosing the same dynamic with a different face — or why peace feels more threatening than conflict — this episode is the...
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Episode 44: RAW Regulation | Co-Regulation: Why the Best Thing You Can Do Tonight Is Stop Trying

EPISODE SUMMARY We're closing the week with the most quietly powerful tool in the entire suite — co-regulation. In today's Raw Regulation mini-episode, we break down the neuroscience of what happens when two nervous...
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Episode 43: RAW Regulation | The 5-Minute Buffer Zone: The Most Important Transition of Your Day

  EPISODE SUMMARY Most people walk in the door from work still in the meeting they left forty-five minutes ago. Today's Raw Regulation mini-episode is about the Buffer Zone — a deliberate five-minute transition ritual...
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Episode 42: RAW Regulation | Why What You Carry In Your Face Is Blocking Your Intimacy

EPISODE SUMMARY Are your teeth touching right now? They probably shouldn't be. In today's Raw Regulation mini-episode, we're going deep on one of the most undertalked pieces of nervous system anatomy — the jaw-pelvis...
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Episode 41: RAW Regulation | The 30-Second Cortisol Brake You Already Own

  EPISODE SUMMARY This Raw Regulation mini-episode is your Tuesday reset. In under seven minutes, you'll learn the neuroscience behind the physiological sigh — the fastest, most accessible tool your body already has...
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