[00:00:00] Hello, welcome back. This is raw Regulation on the Regulated Life. Today's Truth, the safety, you're searching for lives inside you. So breathe with me. Settle in. Be here.
Here's what I know to be true. We spend so much time looking for safety outside ourselves in relationships, in validation, in control, in perfection, and in being needed, wanted or approved of. But external safety is conditional. It can be taken away. It can shift. It can disappoint you. The safety that lasts, the safety that heals.
It lives inside you, in your breath, [00:01:00] in your body, in your capacity to come back to yourself when the world feels chaotic. And if no one's told you this lately, you don't need someone else to make you feel safe. You don't need the perfect circumstances, or the perfect partner, or the perfect life.
You just need to remember that you've survived everything you thought would break you, and you're still here. Still breathing. Still capable of creating your own inner sanctuary. That's not just survival, that's power.
Your nervous system is constantly scanning for safety or threat. It's called neuroception. The subconscious process where your body decides, am I safe? Am I in danger? Do I need to [00:02:00] protect myself? Most of us with trauma or chronic stress, our nervous systems are stuck in threat mode. We're scanning for danger everywhere.
We're hypervigilant. We're waiting for the other shoe to drop. So we look outside ourselves for proof that we're okay. We need reassurance. We need someone else to tell us we are safe. But here's the shift. When you learn to co-regulate with yourself, when you learn to use your breath, your body, and your awareness to signal safety internally, you stop needing the world to change before you can feel okay, you become your own safe place, your own refuge, your own anchor.
And that doesn't mean you don't need connection or support. [00:03:00] It means you're not dependent on it to survive. That's the difference between codependence and interdependence. Between desperation and devotion. Let's practice creating internal safety right now. Place both hands on your heart. Feel the warmth.
Feel the weight.
Feel the steadiness.
Now breathe in for four counts. 1, 2, 3, 4. Hold for 4, 2, 3, 4, out for 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Again, In for four. Hold for four. [00:04:00] Out for six.
As you breathe, I want you to say this silently or out loud. I am my own safe place.
Breathe,
my body is my sanctuary.
Breathe,
I am here. I am safe. I am whole.
Breathe.
One more round in for four. Hold for four
out for six.
And as you [00:05:00] exhale, imagine releasing the need to find safety outside yourself. Imagine coming home to the safety that's been here all along.
Take that with you. Let your breath remind you. You are safe. You are here. You are enough, room by room, breath by breath. See you tomorrow.
I.
