The "I'm Fine" Lie
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Erica: [00:00:00] If 'I’m fine' is the story you tell to survive, this is your moment to finally tell the truth. Because behind that mask is a body begging to be seen, softened, and safe.
You say you're fine, but your body tells the truth. Tight chest. Swallow words. Smiles that don't reach your eyes. You've been holding it together for so long. You might have forgotten what it actually feels like to be okay today. Let's talk about the lie of, I'm fine, not just the words, but the story underneath.
Notice your breath as we begin. Is it shallow? Is your jaw clenched? Let's get honest together.
I'm fine. is the survival mask of the high functioning, emotionally exhausted adult.
You've been applauded for [00:01:00] being the strong one, the dependable one, the one who always handles it. But let's be real for a moment. I'm fine is the armor you wear when you don't feel safe being honest. It's the freeze response
s dressed up in a nice outfit. It's your trauma response rebranded as being a low maintenance. But behind that phrase, lives a war zone of unspoken grief, anxiety spirals, and emotional numbness. You train yourself to ignore.
You say, I'm fine because you don't want to be a burden, because maybe deep down. You're afraid that falling apart means you won't come back together. Because no one ever taught you how to feel and still be safe.
What would it be like to lay down that armor even for a [00:02:00] moment? Notice what comes up when you imagine letting someone see the real you. Maybe it's fear, maybe it's relief. Maybe you're not sure yet, and that's okay.
So here's the raw truth.
You don't need permission to tell the truth of your heart, but you do need practice. Because honesty feels dangerous when your nervous system has been running from pain for years. So let's practice right now. Just, just you and me.
If you're able, place one hand on your heart, feel its rhythm,
whisper softly, or just think I'm not fine and that's okay. Again, even softer, I'm not fine and that's okay.
Now say I'm learning to [00:03:00] be honest with myself. Let that land. Notice any sensations in your body, give yourself a moment to just be with whatever is present.
Good. Let's take a deep breath together. Breathe in slowly. Hold it for a moment.
Now exhale as if you're releasing years of pretending.
Roll your shoulders back. Let them drop away from your ears. Unc unclench your jaw. Soften your face. Let your belly expand as you breathe in and soften as you breathe out. You don't have to hold it all right now. Not in this space. This is your sanctuary.[00:04:00]
Notice how your body feels now. If you need more time, you can pause this episode and stay here as long as you like.
The world doesn't need another high functioning human running on empty. It needs you. The real you. The messy emotional healing, honest you. The one beneath the I'm fine. Start by telling yourself the truth. Even if it's scary, even if no one else can hold it yet. Every time you choose honesty, you take off the mask just a little bit more.
You're already on the path and you're not alone.
You're safe here. Every day. This space is your permission slip to [00:05:00] drop the mask. If you're ready to go deeper, take the inner sanctuary quiz to find out which room of your soul needs attention right now. mind-fusion.com/quiz. Thank you for showing up for yourself today.
I'll see you tomorrow. No mask required.
You don’t have to keep holding it all alone. The moment you stop pretending is the moment real healing begins.
